Crossroads: which way do I go?
Wouldnât you love it if there was a huge road sign with your name on it saying âthis way! This is the way to that dream job, to the work thatâs perfect for you.â? Youâd feel relieved, Iâm sure. Youâd feel energised, engaged, committed and youâd bring yourself fully to your work. But right now, as youâre coming towards the crossroads, you can see there isnât a big neon sign with your name on it, there isnât even a guy with a placard giving you subtle hints â the choice is yours to make. And thatâs one big challenge when it comes to change. Itâs a paradox. We want choice and in the same breath we fear choice. Some of us feel; confused, overwhelmed, hypersensitive or emotionally blank. Some of us feel limited by the lack of options available and fear wasting our time and our precious skills, talents and the best of what we have to give. Some of us have so many options we make no movement forward at all and end up feeling frustrated and stuck. Youâve probably already tried looking outwardly for âtheâ job to jump off the page, perhaps youâve stalked a company; waiting nervously in anticipation for âthatâ vacancy to become available, or maybe youâve registered your details & CV with every job site online without success. I work with people every day who are facing crossroads. I feel their pain and understand wholeheartedly what it feels like when things change outside our control or even when we purposefully make change happen ~ it still feels scary either way. In fact, just last night a friend of mine sent me details of a part-time job that has just become available, ironically the message started with âI saw this and it has your name written all over itâ. The job specification is a mirror of what Iâve been doing (in part) for the past 12 years. Bingo! Youâre probably thinking, but only yesterday morning Iâd had a meeting with both my graphic designer and my website designer to help me create my new brand that will take me into a different marketplace. Now thatâs a real test of my fresh new commitments and perhaps thereâs room for a third option to emerge. Iâll process it. My processing involves me taking myself out for a walk so that I can have a good meeting with myself. Hereâs a few of my practical tips to ease the pain and to take stock of your capacity* when you come to those inevitable junctions and crossroads in our journey through life: Get your hands on a copy of Brand You by John Purkiss & David Royston-Lee. Read it all and do the work on the exercises â Youâll uncover great things about yourself. Let them shine. Make time and create the physical space to be quiet with yourself. If you know how , meditate and whisper into the space âwhere do I go from hereâ, be open to listen for the whisper that comes back at you and allow things to unfold. Go for a walk, keep moving, talk. Talk through ideas & fears with a good friend or a professional helper who gives you space to express yourself without judgement. Write out your philosophy, see it on the page and figure out how this shapes your attitude which in turn shapes your behaviour. Kind, nice & switched on people hire first on attitude ~ look where your attitude will be welcomed in service than trying to find âthatâ role to serve you. There, youâll find your Why. *(Notice I didnât use the word potential?) Gail Cherry is a professional coach; she is a true student of human nature and has a great eye for the strengths and abilities of her fellow man. She knows exactly where and how to tickle her clients to deliver their top performance and how to inspire them. Her compassion and kindness makes people feel accepted and understood around her.
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